Getting back into a rountine
What is normal?
Jessie has been getting together with the women at church for the last few months. They first started off getting together for breakfast at one of the lady's houses. Then they all asked if they could do a study together. They ended up needing to change it to evenings. So now Jessie is leading a woman's bible study on Wednesday nights. Then on Thursday nights we have the church bible study. (Last week we had 16 people in our living-room!)
The women have decided to spend the day together at the beach. This is no big deal for me. On Saturday they are going to go, but what about the children? I myself will be taking care of my kids which is no big deal. I mean they are my kids. It doesn't happen all that often but I have no fear of taking care of my own kids. This is not the case with the other women in the group. All have expressed how this has been a bit difficult for all of them to get someone to watch their kids either their husband or someone else. After some discussion about what was going on, it was clear that none of the other men were wanting to take care of their kids for the day. The mother-in-laws are going to help out in. Jessie and talked about how this is one of the macho characteristics that shows itself every once and a while with men here. If all of your life you have been taught that the man's job is to work and the woman's job is to take care of the kids and home life, how would this change? Bringing up what the bible teaches about love and how we as men need to love our families to show our family what Godly love is, is one of the many things we influence here. We are studying the books of Romans in our bible study. In Romans 1:28-31
And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. 29 They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, 31 foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. (ESV)
When we are left to ourselves, we start following what "feels good". When it comes to men, we like to be served. Is this true or not? But what does God call us to do? We are to walk as Jesus walked. Respond the way Jesus responded to those who crucified him. "Father, forgive them for they don't know what they are doing."
You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them. 26 It shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, 27 and whoever would be first among you must be your slave, 28 even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (ESV)
Does this mean in the home? Does this mean in the family? Do we lord our authority over them or do we serve them? That is every man's battle. Peter said we need to lead by example. What kind of example are giving? Are we giving an example of someone who loves Jesus? Do we love in a way that reflects Jesus and how he loved while he walked on the this earth? I do not write this things to condemn us but to challenge us to examine our faith and how we live it out. Do I serve my wife or do I expect her to serve me?